"She filled her palm of her hand with a lil water n held it before me, and said this, "u see this water carefully contained in my hand? it symbolizes love." As long as u keep ur hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if u attempt to close ur finger around it, n try to possess it, it will spill thru de 1st crack it finds.
This is the greatest mistake that people make when they meet love, .. they try to possess it, they demand, they expect, .. and just like the water spilling out of ur hand, love will run from u., for love, is meant to be free, u cannot change its nature. If you love someone, allow them to be free beings.
GIVE and DONT EXPECT
ADVISE, but DONT ORDER
ASK, but NEVER DEMAND
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practise. It is a *secret* to true love. To truly practise it, u must sincerely feel no expectations from those who u love, n yet an unconditional caring.
Maybe this is applicable for all of us.. "
I copied this from somewhere, till now I'm struggling with keeping a good balance. To me, unconditional love only applies to a mother's love for her child. For us mere mortals and normal beings, we can only try our best. How many times have I said to myself, I'm so glad I found him, he is the best thing that happened to me and I will not let a day go by without him knowing that. Yet I can take things for granted, sulk for the littlest reasons, and expect him to shower me with love and attention every single moment we are together?
I would say to my guy friends and colleagues, what a girl wants is very simple. 3 A's? Affection, Attention, Appreciation. Uh oh..maybe there are more...Adoration, Admiration, Assurance.....without all these, we would just be ANNOYING.
And what a guy wants? To be free. Trust is very important here. He taught me to trust, and be trusted. I can safely say that he can do whatever he wants, and I know he'd have done nothing to make me fret.